The other night NPR had two stories that you might enjoy…
If you live in NWA this one is for you:
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=14927055
The other one is a really interesting story about how the Amish forgive. I think the thing that really stuck out to me was that it seems like for them forgiveness is a an act of a community. For sure, forgiveness involves an individual choice, but perhaps if we are to grieve with those who grieve, we can forgive with those who forgive as well.
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=14900930